The Purpose Room

**Disclaimer** This is a personal blog and it is not meant to defame UWM or deter any student from going there. This is simply my experience and has shaped my outlook on city of Milwaukee. I have back at home since March 13th, 2020. And coming back home for me was a mental whirlwind. Home for me is sacred and peaceful. I was raised in this house and it represents a safety net. I know everyone and it is my safe place. However, when I went away from school almost two years ago, I merged into a new reality that stripped me from the "home" I knew. I completed my undergrad at the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee. Milwaukee represents a city of lack and uncomfortableness. It is the top segregated city in America and socio-economic disparity in the black community is evident. During that dreadful season, I experienced loneliness, racism, and microaggressions like never before. When I first arrived, I look back and I represented such courage, strength and...

It's okay to grieve unmet expectations. For the past weeks, I have been trying to articulate how I feel saying goodbye to graduation, the city of my college, and a relationship. A relationship in which started off with good intentions but ended prematurely. As I reflect, I don't regret how the relationship ended because I respected myself enough to end the relationship. I had to constantly reinforce my boundaries and I was tired of it. If you have to constantly reinforce boundaries, the person clearly doesn't respect your boundaries. If someone is using manipulation to maneuver your boundaries and dictate the course of the relationship, then it is best to let go. What started so innocent became unclear. If you cannot show up to the relationship being your whole self (boundaries and values) that relationship isn't for you. I have been pursuing purity for almost 5 years and it has become a lifestyle. In a romantic relationship, sex is completel...